Aging Expectations

Drab to Fab – 5 Motivators

You may (or may not) have noticed, I haven’t posted in over a week.


I was really busy with the holiday and family fun.

True but not an excuse.

I was exhausted from all the holiday preparation.

True, okay maybe exhausted is too strong. I was tired though! Also, not an excuse.

Here’s the real answer…I was unmotivated. I wasn’t feeling it. I have tons of stuff to write about, tons of ideas just not the energy to do it.


How can I fix that feeling?

Get to Fab.

After much trial and lots of error, here are five motivators that work for me:

1. Start Small

Pick something very small to do. Something that doesn’t take a lot of effort. It gets the ball (or pebble) rolling. It gives you something to feel good about and prompts you to do something bigger.

Don’t feel like you have to go crazy bigger, though. Do another small thing. Add two toes to the water. Unless you’re feeling it, then jump in the deep end.

2. Be Nice to Yourself

I find when I get in these moods, I’m hard on myself. Lots of negative self-talk. Take my advice –


It seems like it might but it doesn’t. It just makes me feel worse and less apt to do things. Talk kindly to yourself. Remind yourself of all the good things you’ve done. Even if they were last week, last month, last year, etc.

3. Make A List

This one is not for everyone but hear me out. I find when I have SO many things to do, swimming around in my head, I get overwhelmed and almost paralyzed. If I can write them all down and prioritize them, I’m much better at starting.

Some people get overwhelmed with seeing all the “to-dos” on paper. If you’re like that, skip this motivator (it won’t help).

4. Get Moving

Don’t sit on the couch. Get up, get outside, get moving. Try to make it something fun. Even if it’s just a little bit.

I’m not talking about exercising (who wants to do that when you’re feeling unmotivated?). I’m talking about a walk around the block, a jaunt at your local Target, etc. Sometimes it works for me, sometimes it doesn’t. It’s always worth a shot.

5. Talk To People

It doesn’t matter who it is or what you say. When I’m feeling drab, I tend not to want to talk to anyone. I want to be by myself so I can be drab alone. Not good. I’ve stumbled upon this motivator by accident. There have been times when I’m drab but have to interact, regardless.

When I do this, it’s helped motivate me to do things. That sense of connection gives me a stronger sense of purpose, even if those I’m interacting with don’t have much to do with my life (a stranger at the coffee shop, another mom at the playground, etc.). It helps most when it’s in person.


There you have it, my 5 motivators to turn drab into fab!

What motivates you?

I HATE feeling unmotivated so please share your thoughts! I’m open to ANY ideas!


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  1. Excellent advice! I certainly feel “the drabs” from time to time. Deadlines motivate me, so I try to create “fake deadlines” if need be, just to get myself going. If I can get some social accountability attached to those deadlines – such as by telling my husband and I’m going to do such-and-such by whatever date, and then asking him to hold me to it – all the better. Of course I sometimes get mad when he DOES hold me to it, but having him (or whoever) calling me on my own plans definitely lights a fire under me!
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    1. Thanks.
      Great suggestion!!
      I am the same way…when my husband reminds me of something (I’ve asked him to remind me of) I’m like “All right, I know!” (all annoyed) but then I am totally on it so I can say, “There, I did it!”…terrible but true 🙂

      Thanks for sharing!!

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